It’s not easy to let go as a mom. And it’s even more difficult when our young-adult children appear unable to launch due to addiction, lack of experience, special needs, immaturity or fear. Our children’s needs can consume our lives, our money, our time and fill us with anger, grief and hopelessness. We can feel alone, embarrassed, frustrated and afraid. Will it ever change? The more we try, the angrier we become, yet we still cannot let go.
Letting go is a complex emotional process with many pitfalls. Sometimes we can get caught up in the grief, or fall into a patterns of co-dependency and perpetuate the very problems we’re trying to solve. When this occurs, support can be helpful - not for our children, but for ourselves.
By turning our attention to what we can control, which is our own life, we start to feel empowered. This may seem counter-intuitive and maybe even selfish for mothers who are accustomed to nurturing and caring for others, but when we change ourselves, the lives around us also change.
About Colleen Russell, MA Depth Psychology
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